We can all get hit with tragedy. I’m no stranger to crisis myself. I’ve learned a few things about how to get through them. I know that wallowing in a story won’t heal us. I know that it can feel like life will never be joyful again. I know it doesn’t mean you are a bad person if it takes you longer to heal or if you heal quickly. I know that life will be magical again if you let it. I know we are all unique and we deal with crisis in our own way, but there are a few things that we can do to help us survive with a high vibration.
First of all, some people believe becoming spiritual or practicing the law of attraction, should insulate us from crisis. I don’t agree. As Marilyn Monroe says “I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, … and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
I do believe three things. One is that when you have a strong spiritual practice you will have less crisis in your life, the ones you experience won’t feel as painful, and there is a gift in any crisis that comes, no matter how bad feels at the time.
Unexpectedly crisis can happen: a car crash, a lost job, the sudden death of someone near and dear. It sucks and you can’t pretend it doesn’t. But according to the law of attraction, you are supposed to be happy or more bad things will happen, right? No, be true to yourself. Don’t judge yourself for attracting a tragic situation. It’s not helpful and won’t help you heal. That said, you can’t fake happy, but you can take some steps to get through this crisis and be in an even better place on the other side. You’ll get back to a higher vibration faster if you don’t try to resist negative emotions and pretend you don’t have them.
Steps to Survive a Crisis:
Phase 1: Be with it: If you’ve just been hit by something which feels very tragic, don’t pretend it didn’t happen. Be with it. Feel the hit. Be sad, cry, throw things. Crawl under your covers and hide. Do whatever it takes for you to feel all the emotions that you are swirling around you. Just don’t talk about it over and over. You will need to talk out what happened, but pick one or two trusted people, who won’t get you stuck. We can replay things over and over, but I don’t think it serves us. Yes, we need to feel our emotions. No, we don’t need to keep telling the story over and over. Give yourself compassion and love. Don’t judge yourself for what you are feeling, just let yourself feel it. Take comfort wherever you can get it. Let people love you and take care of you. Lean on others. Lean on God.
Phase 2: Start to shift it: Usually, pain from a crisis doesn’t go away overnight. Eventually though, you will need to make some movement to allow some joy back into your life. You don’t have to be sparkly and happy every moment of the day, but you do need to create some moments of levity. Create a vibrational shifting toolbox and put in things that will make you happy. Some ideas: funny movies, good books, your favorite chocolate, a phone call to your best friend, buying flowers for no reason, old notes that make you smile. Do something that makes you laugh and smile at least once a day. As time goes by make it at least three times a day. You might get sad or mad again in between. That’s Ok. Give yourself permission to feel how you feel, but make a conscious decision to feel good at least part of the time.
Phase 3: Take the Gift and Move on: Guess what, you will never be the same person you were before this crisis happened and that’s good news. While I prefer to grow through joy instead of pain, all growth is good. Being a more understanding, vulnerable person is good. The new person you are now has insights that you didn’t have before. The new you has gifts that will help you create beauty in the world that the old you wasn’t capable of. You are beautiful and strong. Everything that happens to you becomes part of your resonance. It makes you more you. You get to decide how you are going to integrate everything and if you are going to treat it as a tragedy or a gift. Let it be ok that out of tragedy can come a magical, new you. That doesn’t mean what happened was good, it means that you accept the gifts the Universe gives you and you use them to add more love to the world.
How do you deal with crisis in your life? I’d love to hear your thought you thoughts and comments. To prove it, I’m giving away a bottle of Abundance Essential Oil blend to one of my commenters during the month of January. It’s one of my favorite oils I’ll put everyone’s name in random.org and choose a winner to be announced here around Feb. 1st. Then I’ll email the winner to get their mailing address. Watch this space as I’ll be changing up my give-aways this year. Some months it’ll be oils and maybe crystals and some months it will be some of my new services and classes that are coming soon!
Transforming through love and joy,
Michelle Martin Dobbins
Namaste & Hugs,
Michelle Martin Dobbins