3 Ways to Be There for Others Without Keeping Them Stuck
Shower the people you love with love. –James Taylor
What do we do when the people we love have their lives crashing down around them? Our first reaction to sympathize and worry about them, but it’s the wrong thing to do. What you need to do is LOVE them. We are deliberate creators and what do we create when we worry about people? More reasons to worry.
I tend not to share a lot of negative information about myself. Why? Because if I’m sick, I don’t want others visualizing me as sick and adding to that energy. While our own vibration is what matters most in our lives, we live in a collective vibration and we can affect each others vibrations to a certain degree. The more positive your vibration is the stronger it is. Abraham-Hicks says “Someone who takes the time to understand their relationship with source, who actively seeks alignment with their broader perspective, who deliberately seeks and finds alignment with who-they-really-are, is more charismatic, more attractive, more effective, and more powerful than a group of millions who have not achieved this alignment. ” Obviously, we can help other’s more by staying happy and being in alignment than by worrying.
Abraham, also, says:
You cannot get sick enough to help sick people get better. You cannot get poor enough to help poor people thrive. It is only in your thriving that you have anything to offer anyone. If you’re wanting to be of an advantage to others, be as tapped in, turned in, turned on as you can possibly be. — Abraham
So when a friend is diagnosed with cancer, announces they are getting divorced, or experiences some other life trauma, how can we best respond?
1. Be There. Give them a hug if you can. Listen to them, but don’t keep them stuck in the story of what’s wrong. Steer them towards looking for solutions. Not to say it’s not ok for them to feel their feelings. It is important to feel the feelings, but don’t let them keep telling the story of what they don’t want, over and over.
2. Shower them with love. I pray for people by showering them with love. I imagine them healthy, happy, and whole and showered by the grace of God (You can visualize the Universe or Higher Self or whatever you prefer.) I don’t ask for them to be healed, I see them healed and give thanks. What we believe we receive, so why shouldn’t we believe in and for each other? Positive thought is the best gift you can give.
3. Take action. Sometimes just being there and thinking positive thoughts for them is enough, but if they need money or some homemade soup or anything you can do to help and it feels right do it. Some of the answers to their desires might come from you.
A lot of people in my life are struggling right now and I catch myself thinking I’m not feeling bad enough for them, but then I remember, feeling bad does nothing to improve things and I shift to seeing solutions for them and just keep showering the love onto them. “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” goes for our thoughts about others, too.
I’d love to hear how you support the people you love or any other comments. To prove it, I’m giving away one of my Angel Card readings (see service page) to one of my commenters during the month of May. I’ll put everyone’s name in random.org and choose a winner to be announced here around June 1st. Then I’ll email the winner with the details if I have access to their e-mail or you can check back here around the first and e-mail me if you’re the winner.
Love and Transformation,