How Can I Help YOU? by Jason Bourne

Jason Bourne

I connected with Jason Bourne on twitter and no, not the one from the Bourne Identity movies.  This Jason is way better. He’s a role model for anyone who wants more magic in their lives. Why? Because he reaches out to people and helps anyone he can. He invites authors to place guest posts on his blog and he is always sharing encouraging words on twitter. Jason was born with Spina Bifida but he hasn’t let that slow him down.  He is writing a book and I know he’s going places, because he is genuine and authentic and that  makes you unstoppable in this world. So without further adui, here’s Jason:

How can I Help You By Jason Bourne

One of the questions I get asked the most, especially when I am out in public, at a store or a restaurant, is “How can I help you?” “Are you finding everything okay?” or “Is there anything I can get for you?”

Now, that’s a legitimate question, that everyone should be asked, disabled or not, in my opinion. I mean, it’s common courtesy to ask someone if they need help finding something when they’re shopping, or if they need a refill if they’re eating at a restaurant.

It’s a little embarrassing to talk about publicly, but because I have spina bifida, I have special supplies I have to buy every month, and about the only place I can find the supplies I need is Wal-Mart. Most of my supplies are within arms’ reach, so I’m able to grab what I need and go check out. Sometimes I can’t find what I’m looking for, because the supplies are not in stock, or as is most often the case, they’re on a shelf that’s too high for me to get to. Most of the time, when this happens, I have to ask my parents to go get the things I need, which is also embarrassing because I shouldn’t have to depend on my parents every time I need to pick something up from the store.

I know I can ask a person working in the store to get them for me, to save time and my parents a trip to the store, but again it’s really embarrassing to go up to a stranger in Wal-Mart and say, “I have so and so, and I need this and that, can you get them for me?”… I can’t really put this into words, but just imagine how you’d feel if you were in the same position…

Whenever someone asks me, “How can I help you?” or “Is there anything I can get for you?” I always tell them I have everything I need, or I’m just looking. But actually, that’s only half right. I think the biggest way people can help me, and anyone else with a disability, is to remember that we are the SAME as everybody else. We have the same emotions, wants, needs, desires, frustrations and feelings as everyone else in this world. We cry at funerals, laugh at somebody’s jokes, get mad when somebody cuts us off in traffic and share in the grief of a loved one when a family member dies or has major surgery. I think we all just want to be accepted and loved for what’s inside, and not pushed away into the cold because of some physical deformity or disability.

I have met some amazing people with disabilities and, although it’s hard to understand them sometimes, the smile they have on their faces when I first meet them means more to me than all the money in the world. I wish I had the chance to meet a lot more disabled children and adults, to just spend a couple hours just talking with them. I know my life would be blessed beyond my wildest dreams.

I can’t speak for every disabled person in the world, but I think the biggest question I have for all of my readers is “How can I help YOU?” That’s what I really want people to understand about me and this blog. I really want to help people realize their full potential in life and achieve their goals. I want to know what’s going on in your life and want to help you overcome obstacles and solve problems you’re having. I’m no rocket scientist (believe me I’d probably blow it into itty-bitty pieces!!!), but together I hope to make this world a better place for you and me.

I truly believe with all my heart and soul that every person, young, old, disabled and not disabled has something very special to offer this world. It’s just a matter of looking inside your heart and soul and seeing where that gift lies. It took me a long time to realize my purpose was to help people and to show them that disabled people are no different than anyone else. So, the real question my friends is “How can I help YOU?

More About Jason Bourne

Jason is 31 years old and has been disabled since birth. Diagnosed with spina bifida, he has no feeling below the waist and can’t feel his legs. He graduated in December 2006 from Kennesaw State University, about 20 minutes north of Atlanta, with a B.S. degree in communications. He works with the city of Marietta, Ga.’s, public information office, writing press releases and taking pictures for the city’s website, mariettaga.gov. He loves reading, writing and taking pictures in his spare time. He is currently working on his first book.

Michelle again: You can reach out to Jason at his blog, Jason’s Spina Bifida Journey and you can find him on twitter @Jason_Bournesm

I’d love to hear any thoughts you have on the magic of accepting or offering help or any other comments. To prove it, I’m giving away one of my Angel Card readings (see service page) to one of my commenters during the month of June. I’ll put everyone’s name in random.org and choose a winner to be announced here around July 1st. Then I’ll email the winner with the details if I have access to their e-mail or you can check back here around the first and e-mail me if you’re the winner.

 

  • Jane McBride says:

    Very good blog post, and thought provoking. I have a 12 year old son with autism. We frequently meet people in public who mean well, but who blunder through their encounters with us. It’s hard to know what advice to give to these people, because honestly, I quite often don’t know what to do myself. I guess what I would really want them to know is that they don’t have to do anything special. He’s a special kid, but you can still talk to him just like you would anyone else. And if you see a kid having a public melt down, please-ignore it. That’s what that kid’s parents want you to do. Don’t try to help, don’t stare (if you can help it), and for heaven’s sake, don’t tell me that I please need to do something about my brat. All of the above have happened to us! Many times.
    I know people mean well, but most of them just don’t know what they should do.
    And thanks for reminding me that I needed to make a blog post!

    • Jane, Thanks for sharing. I think most everyone wants to do the right thing. When I’m out shopping I try to send light and love to everyone, regardless of disability or not. It seems to be a good way to send care to everyone without intruding or making them feel uncomfortable. Your children are lucky to have you are a mommy!

      Blessings, Michelle

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