Surfing the Rough Waves: 4 Ways to Support Yourself

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Trying to soak in every bit of Italy.

Many of you know I recently returned from a dream-come-true trip to Italy. It was divine and magical. I didn’t want to miss a minute of it. I focused on what was good.  I carried a grounding crystal with me everywhere. I felt the energy of the country, the cities and the people. I had many days where I buzzed with bliss energy.


I kept going from 6 AM to at least 12 PM every day.

I didn’t have time alone and we were traveling with a group of 80 people.

I didn’t make the space for my normal meditation time.

Long story short: I got home and I was sick and burnt out. No worries. I told myself, I’ll rest for a few days and I’ll be good as new. My body had other ideas. I’ve been home for a week and two days and I have yet to stay out of bed for a full day. My good hours in day have been down to 2-3 hours most every day. My naturopath diagnosed intestinal distress and adrenal fatigue.

Nope, not me. Not going there. But yet my body has not been cooperating. My body is saying “Stop.”  And my brain is saying, “This is not OK. You are the Daily Alchemy lady. You must always be peaceful, healthy and positive.” Silly brain. Time to listen to my body.

Part of me wants to figure out why I created this because I’m clear that I did and when I look back there are sign posts but I’m in the rough waves and telling myself I should have stayed back on the beach won’t help me now. I need to ride the waves. Not berate myself for swimming out into them and not fight against them. Neither of those reactions work.

So what does work when we are in a rough patch? Here’s what I’m doing:Stormy Waves

1. Acknowledge that you are there and you created it, but don’t beat yourself up for it. I’m not loving feeling this way but I can see the gifts in it. I have slowed way down. I’m considering how to pace myself to balance enjoying life while taking action and while relaxing. I’m realizing that I don’t have to worry about missing out. Everything that is perfect for me will be drawn to me when I relax and enjoy what’s here now and I don’t have to make enjoying it a job.

2. Relax and Let “What-is” be OK. Right now, I’m typing in my bed and I have to take breaks and there are lots of things that just aren’t going to happen until I feel better. It’s OK. I will do what I can and I will relax and know that everything will work out. Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be lovely, even when I’m laid up in bed.

3. Focus on Where You Are Going at Least Twice A Day.  I am reminding myself that “this too shall pass.” Also, I’m taking the time to tell the story of myself feeling better and filled with energy and moving through my days with ease, balance, and bliss. I’m holding onto that feeling as much as possible because it where I want to be.

4. Throw Anything that Feels Good at It. My naturopath gave me herbal supplements which I’m taking. I have healing crystals that are in the bed with me and I place them on my chakras several times a day. Anything that feels like an improvement or supports my story of “I’m feeling better” I’m doing. If it doesn’t then, I’m not.

I’m sure I’ll be feeling fabulous soon, but I’m not going to rush it or put a timeline on when I need to be up and about. I’m going to stick to my mantra that “all is well” and let go of worry. No scary stories for me!

How about you? How do get you by when the rough waves come into your life? I’d love to hear how you support yourself.