Six Degrees of Connection & How to Work Them
There used to be popular saying that we are all no more than six degrees of separation from anyone else. There is even a game based on this notion called the Oracle of Bacon, which shows the degrees of separation of any actor from Kevin Bacon.
Well, separation is not really my bag. People who followed this route where usually focused on “how can I get to Oprah, or some other powerful person, so she/he can help me out.”
I’m a connection kind of girl and I have met so many wonderful people though others. It is just one mutually beneficial, link-building blast. I love tracing the trail of how I met some people from a chain of six or more different online connections. Connection is about reaching out to others and making everyone’s world better in the process. I play the six degrees of connection, instead of the six degrees go separation.The universe often uses other people to help us manifest, so the more people we connect with, the more doors the universe has to work through.
Here are Four Ways to Leverage the Power of Connection:
1. Reach out: When I started this blog, I had a desire to help people and showcase the work of others who line up with my beliefs. I still do. I saw people on various social media that I found intriguing, so I decided to ask them to participate on my blog. I was so nervous to ask the first person to do an interview on my blog, but it felt right. In doing this, I made connections that let to more connections. I’ll share a little secret, don’t be afraid to ask. I’ve never had anyone say no, they didn’t want to be on my blog, but if they did, I’d just go on to the next person. I can still make a connection. Ask people if you can help them or serve them.
2. Ask your connections: Ask the people you are already connected with who their favorite people are and why and would they introduce you or if they are online, point you to their website or Facebook page.
3. Stalk them: Not really, but almost every blog online has a blog roll or they link other pages in their posts. You can, also, see who follows certain people on twitter, connects on linked-in, etc. Go check those people out. They may have just what you need or you may have just what they are looking for. In real life, this might not work so well, but if you hang out with a person, you’re bound to meet their other friends as well. Reach out to them. Get to know them to. Also, go to places the people you want to meet hang out, but don’t worry if you don’t meet them. You can end up connecting most unexpected, synchronistic ways.
4. Let the universe do the heavy lifting: Set an intention to connect with a certain type of person or to make strong connections and let the universe lead you there. You part is to take action by going places that feel right, following people who resonate with you online, and reaching out when you can. Let the universe work its magic. My cousin, who is a writer too, wanted to meet someone to give him career guidance. It turns out one of his favorite patients, in his day job, is a published author and is friends with a very famous author. She invited him to come to lunch with them. I believe this happened, not just because he set that intention, but because he truly liked this women and connected with her before he knew who she was. I found that when I invited writers to share on my blog, they often reciprocated, which was not my intention. Then, out of the blue, a few weeks ago, I received an invitation from Julie Melges-Brenner to be s featured author one week on Kajama (I’m there this week!) through a twitter message. Don’t worry about what someone can get you. Focus on creating a connection and let the universe surprise you.
It’s so funny to me how I’ve connected with people who I never would have encountered, without the universe’s coordination and the connections with other people. I’ve been so blessed to connect with so many people though this blog and so many who helped me get to a place where I could create it.
I’d love to hear stories of the surprising connections you’ve made or any comments you have. To prove it, I’m giving away a Facebook “manifesting plan” to one of my commenters during the month of July. I’ll put everyone’s name in random.org and choose a winner to be announced here around Aug 1st. Then I’ll email the winner with the details if I have access to their e-mail or you can check back here around the first and message me on my Facebook page. Once you tell me what you want to create, I’ll create a personal manifesting plan for you and we’ll make sure it feels good to you.
Transforming through Love & Joy,
Michelle Martin Dobbins