Just Because You Attracted Them Doesn’t Mean You Have to Do Lunch!

Man shouting to a woman

Who are “them’? They are people, who are mean, disrespectful, or just don’t jive with what you have going on in your life. Most of us, who study the law of attraction, alchemy, or other spiritual truths have heard the saying “like attracts like” or “they wouldn’t be there if you didn’t attract them.”  That’s pretty much true, but what do you do if you attracted some bona-fide crazy into your life? Just because you are working on your own spiritual growth doesn’t mean you have to be “nice” and let them into your life.

Just Because You Attracted “Them” Doesn’t Mean You Have to Do Lunch!

So what should you do?

1. Don’t feel bad that you attracted them. That just keeps you focused on the problem and brings more of “them.” Just keep focusing on what you want to create. Maybe they are picking up on some old vibrations that are no longer yours or maybe they’re here to help you learn to love yourself more. either way it’s not a reason to feel negatively towards yourself.  It’s just a chance to change your story about the kind of people you attract into your life.

Remember, if you are in business or you have a big sphere of influence, there will be some crazies. I’ve been called the Anti-Christ a few times on my Facebook page, but 99% of people are positive and kind, so I don’t worry. Look at the percentage of crazy, if it’s a small number of your customers or followers, don’t worry. If it get’s to be a problem, look at your story.

2. Set boundaries.  If you have a person in you “real life” that treats you poorly, let them know politely but firmly, that you have lots of commitments now on your life and won’t have time for them. Bless them, love them, but let them go. You deserve to live a peaceful life.

If they are on you Facebook page or other social media, block & ban and move forward. Don’t feel bad. Your social media accounts are your own utopia. You get to decide who stays and who goes. Keep the energy up on the level with your own. You should smile when you open your accounts.

If  you are a business owner and they are your customer, fire them. Refer them to another company. You are worthy of piece of mind and it’s not worth the money. Focus on customers who enjoy and desire your services.

3. Focus on the type of people you want in your life.

Don’t feel guilty or bad. You get to choose who you want in you life. Pick those who lift you up and protect yourself from those, who don’t. It really is that simple. It’s not mean. Send them light and love, but don’t stand back and let them hurt you. Then make a list of the qualities of the people you want to attract for friends, lovers, or customers.

The nice thing is when you work on your own self-love, crazy people don’t come into your life very often. When they do, it’s just a reminder that it’s time to do something nice for yourself. It’s possible that when you shift how you treat yourself, their behavior will shift too. Happy people aren’t mean so have compassion, but keep those boundaries when you need them.

How do you deal with people in your life that you didn’t want to attract?  I’d love to hear your comments. To prove it, I’m giving away a Facebook “manifesting plan” to one of my commenters during the month of August. I’ll put everyone’s name in random.org and choose a winner to be announced here around Sept 1st. Then I’ll email the winner with the details if I have access to their e-mail or you can check back here around the first and message me on my Facebook page. Once you tell me what you want to create, I’ll create a personal manifesting plan for you and we’ll make sure it feels good to you.

Transforming through Love and Joy,

Michelle Martin Dobbins

  • You are so right, Michelle! What a great reminder to let yourself off the hook. Here’s to us all realizing we get to choose. 🙂
    Thanks for a great post!
    Much Love to you, Michelle!

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